What’s in a name?



Today I was on a call with a woman named Grace. I love the name Grace. What a beautiful intention for parents to create for their daughter naming her Grace. Oh, the possibilities they created in their choosing.

As I thought this thought, I wondered, when my parents named me, what was their intention for me? I know that they wanted a name that was unique to me. Given that my dad is the youngest of 15 children, finding a name that none of my relatives already had was a challenge! In the end, I got the same name as a distant cousin, Vicki – and not just my first name…we ended up with the same first and middle name: Vicki Lynn, even spelled the same. Not even different spellings, like Vickie, or Vicky, or Lynne – Vicki Lynn. If I’m correct, though, our last names are different. I am Vicki Lynn Flaherty.

So what did, what does, Vicki mean to my parents? My mom has told me that the one thing they knew for certain – at 17 and 21 years old – was their love for each other, and for me, even before I was conceived, when I was just an imagined possibility in their hearts. They trusted as truth that LOVE would be enough.

Right now I’m thinking Vicki is a pretty beautiful name, too…a name that means love, a name that is so full of heart it bursts with light.




About Vicki Flaherty

I feel most alive when I am creating, whether through my writing and poetry, gardening and photography, or simply living my life each day. Running and yoga enrich my being. Travel opens me to new possibilities and greater awareness. I am happiest when I’m with my husband Jim. I share my gratitude for all the gifts in my life on my This Abundantly Delicious Life blog. I find a special joy in helping people succeed. I’ve done something valuable when I’ve helped a colleague or friend see their brilliance and express their full potential. I have awesome opportunities to do this as an industrial/organizational psychologist through leadership, mentoring, coaching, career and other talent programs. I try to encourage Leading with Intention at my blog of this name. As a breast cancer survivor, I found comfort and hope in writing. Poetry flowed through me like a river of healing during my diagnosis and treatment, which I share on my Mostly My Heart Sings blog, that I might offer encouragement and a place of grace and heart for those seeking comfort and hope along their journey.

8 responses »

  1. That’s really sweet Vicki. I was named after one of my dad’s sister’s…which had nothing to do with anything really if you knew the whole story. But I think there is a lot to a name. My three children are Jason, Janie, and Cody. It almost seems like they grew into their names…or something. You’d just have to know…but, yes, names are a big deal, I think. I love the name “Vicki”…and that is a sweet story. 🙂

  2. Your parents must be full of heart and insight into the woman you would become. You have shared so much of your love and caring soul through your journey with with breast cancer. I feel so lucky to have you as a “sister” in this journey. Your inspirational poetry speaks so well to this shared journey.

    I also love my very unique name–I share it with one other woman from one of the Scandinavian countries who my parents thought very highly of–era WWII. I think they realized that I would need a strong and unique name to grow into as I was born 2 months premature and almost didn’t make it.

    • Jedn, thank you for those very kind words. Indeed, you are a very strong woman, with a very big heart. I’m sure you’ve lived into your parents intention for you, too. Blessed, we are so very blessed.

      • Yes we are, through the inspiration of our heritage as well as the inspiration of those who have become part of our lives through our life experiences.

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